This guest post is written by Sue Atkins, BBC, ITV & Disney Parenting Expert.
Sleep is the unsung hero of healthy development – yet in homes across the country, it’s under siege from glowing screens, pinging notifications, and endless scrolling. Whether it’s a toddler transfixed by cartoons or a teen watching TikToks past midnight, devices are distracting, stimulating, and interfering with one of the most essential parts of family life: a good night’s sleep.
So how do we, as parents, navigate this part of the digital jungle?
Let’s start by understanding why it matters – and then move to what we can do about it.
Why Sleep Matters – At Every Age
From babies to teenagers, sleep plays a critical role in:
- Growth and development – especially brain development in younger children.
- Emotional regulation – less sleep means more tantrums, anxiety, and mood swings.
- Academic performance – tired brains don’t learn well.
- Mental health – there’s a direct link between sleep deprivation and depression, especially in teens.
- Family harmony – tired kids = tired parents = short tempers and less joy.
How Devices Disrupt Sleep
Here’s what’s going on:
- Blue Light Suppresses Melatonin The light from screens tricks the brain into thinking it’s still daytime. This delays the production of melatonin, the hormone that tells our bodies it’s time to sleep.
- Mental Stimulation at the Wrong Time Whether it’s a fast-paced game or an emotional social media post, screens keep the mind alert when it should be winding down.
- Endless Scroll Effect Unlike books or puzzles, digital content doesn’t have a natural stopping point. Algorithms are designed to keep us engaged – not help us sleep.
- Nighttime Interruptions Notifications buzzing at 2 am disrupt sleep cycles, even if they don’t fully wake us up.
What Parents Can Do – Practical Tips
1. Create a Digital Curfew Set a household rule that all devices are off at least an hour before bed – ideally longer for teens and toddlers alike.
2. Make Bedrooms Screen-Free Zones Charge phones in the kitchen. Swap tablets for real books. Make the bedroom a place for rest, not reels.
3. Establish a Calm Bedtime Routine Wind-down time could include a warm bath, a story, gentle music, or journaling. Routine helps signal the brain that sleep is coming.
4. Model It Yourself Children of all ages notice your habits. Try not to scroll while saying goodnight or check your phone during bedtime routines.
Scripts to Start the Conversation
These aren’t lectures. They’re calm, confident conversations that build connection, not conflict.
For Toddlers & Young Children “Let’s tuck the tablet into bed too. It needs to rest so we can have more fun tomorrow!”
For Primary School Kids “Screens are fun, but sleep is superpower fuel. Let’s put the tablet away now so your brain and body can grow strong while you sleep.”
For Tweens “I know it’s tempting to sneak a scroll, but your brain deserves a break. Want to come up with a bedtime playlist or read together for a few minutes instead?”
For Teens “I get that your phone helps you stay connected. But the science is clear – sleep is essential for your mood, memory, and mental health. How can we make this easier – maybe a charging spot downstairs?”
A Final Thought
Helping your child sleep better isn’t about being strict – it’s about being smart. In this part of the digital jungle, it’s not the lion we need to worry about, but the lure of one more video, one more scroll, one more level. Navigating this together, with empathy and consistency, can transform the bedtime battle into a bedtime bond.
Read more from Sue and navigating the digital jungle here